Surviving the Holidays

By Judy Cornett

How am I going to get through the upcoming Holidays feeling as sad and lonely as I do right now? This was a thought that kept going through my head while everyone was in the Christmas Spirit and my spirit was lacking I did not see how I could hide my feelings and act as if I was as happy as all the carols said I should be. The first year after my husband Jerry passed away was a real test.

I was grateful I attended the Surviving the Holidays seminar that was held at Grace UMC in 2016.  During this time with others who were also walking the grief journey, I learned that I could actually do the holidays differently. REALLY!  I did not put up a tree for the first time in 50 years.  REALLY!  And, I decided to do some of my usual traditions differently as well.  I made things as simple as possible because my energy and mood dictated this change.

Yes, it was alright to respect my feelings, and others understood that I needed to do this.  I was able to ask for help when needed and learned that others were so happy to be there for me.

This year, Grace UMC will again be offering Surviving the Holidays on Wednesday, November 29, from 7 – 9 p.m.  This will be my second Holiday Season without Jerry, and I will be there on November 29 because there is no timetable on grief.

If you have lost a loved one and find yourself dreading the upcoming Holidays, please join me!